Understanding the Tendency to Compare: Exploring the Question of Being the Hardest Client"

Human nature and social upbringing have programmed us to constantly compare ourselves to others, both in terms of our successes and our failures. Several factors, including those listed below, contribute to this pattern:

One common method that people evaluate their own skills, qualities, and shortcomings is by making comparisons to those of other people. One's own development and standing may be evaluated in relation to that of others using this comparison.

We live in an environment that places emphasis on winning and succeeding. Because of this, some people may develop an unhealthy obsession with succeeding at every task they face, no matter how little. Being the toughest client might be an attempt to prove oneself as remarkable or unique.

The need for affirmation and reassurance is another source of comparison. When someone asks whether they are the toughest client, it's possible that they are looking for validation that the challenges or difficulties they are going through are real and legitimate. It's possible they feel that their journey would be more significant or worthy of attention if it were the most difficult.

Our sense of value and who we are as individuals depends on how we rate ourselves in relation to those around us. People may want to know if they are the hardest customer since it may boost their confidence or make them feel like they are making headway if they hear that their problems are significant.

As a facilitator, it's important to make sure my clients know that it's not helpful to evaluate themselves in relation to others. Everyone has their own path to follow and their own set of challenges to overcome. Instead of dwelling on how people measure up to others, teach children to take pride in their own development, acknowledge the value of their unique experiences, and enjoy the fruits of their labors.

Always keep in mind that the goal and benefits of breathwork are to aid individuals on their own healing and development journeys, and that comparison simply leads to further stress. Instead of looking for approval from others through comparisons, encourage those you serve to value their own growth and have faith in the process.